Archive for the “Online” Category

I recently was interviewed by a writer on Match.com regarding the email communications between prospective online daters. It made me realize how our dating society has changed.

In my dating days, I remember the difference in how men communicated with me after seeing my online dating ad. Some jumped right in and gave me their life story in the first email, while others remained strangely aloof.

One guy who gave me a 500 word essay email and I replied back with a short response, but told him I was interested. A few days later when we tried to plan a date, he had already met someone else that he was “crazy” about.

That experience taught me to watch for the love wannabes - people looking for a relationship not a person. A few of these jump in and out scenarios left me a little cautious when opening up to new prospective dates.

After learning my lesson, I saw how single men are so easy to read through their email communications. I could always tell the womanizer, the shy guy and even the desperado looking for love with every person dating online.

Since online dating can be a scary thing, women often try to avoid getting too personal until they get to know the person. But is over-caution causing them to miss out on a great available single guy just waiting to meet the right person? When is it appropriate to open up and how much?

My rule of thumb always goes back to my intuition. It has never been wrong. Not to say I didn’t meet my share of jerks when dating, but that was because I ignored my intuition because the guy was cute (my downfall).

Instead of opening up, I would put on my mask and pretend I was cool and into whatever they liked. I watched myself to avoid getting into too deep of a conversation. It seemed like I was getting closer to my dates, but I was actually building a bigger wedge between them and the real me.

My dating story always ended the same way, being rejected for the persona I was expressing because the guys can FEEL when you are faking it. They might not know exactly what is wrong, but they know that something is off so they walk away.

After years of struggling in the dating world, I joined Great Expectations as a last ditch effort to find love. I was not really excited about it, but a friend of mine worked there and encouraged me to sign up. As I pondered the questions and the dreaded video they have their single clients perform, I decided not to put on the mask anymore. I had nothing to lose, so I was just going to lay it out.

I was real, honest and even a little sappy. I wanted a spiritual guy who was into personal growth, I wanted a life partner, I wanted someone who was real. I didn’t stretch the truth about my interest in sports. (In Colorado most guys want a girl who can hike a fourteener, ski or snowboard, etc.). I was just being me and it paid off. The very first guy to respond to my online ad was the love of my life. We spoke for about an hour before we met and immediately connected.

Three years later, we are planning big dreams together and it is the healthiest relationship of my life. I do not know think it matters how and when you open up to another person, as much as knowing you are finally ready to be real. You are the only person that can tell you when the time is right and whether the person is right.

It doesn’t matter if you use Datingclublive.com, Great Expectations, True.com or even those find a rich guy sites. The important thing is to trust your gut, take it slow, and in the end… you just know.

Debra Berndt is a Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, “Let Love In.” Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at http://www.attractlovetoday.com

Comments No Comments »

Being a forum administrator and moderator on a free internet dating site, I felt it was necessary to go over what to watch out for when it comes to romance rip off nightmares.

Unfortunately, there are large groups of people that have nothing better to do with their time than harass and prey on innocent and emotionally vulnerable women AND men. Don’t think it’s only geared towards women, because it’s not. Men get hit up all the time too.

Internet dating is very popular and holds thousands and millions of people for would be scammers to prey on. It’s a thief’s idea of heaven, with so many opportunities and odds are someone will go for their bait.

The majority of romance dating scams is from West African counties such as Nigeria and Ghana, but is in no way limited to those countries.

To begin with, scammers will always post a very attractive photo (not of themselves of course), along with a fake and too good to be true profile.

It’s amazing how much time they actually spend in trying to create a real and interesting profile.

The second thing to look out for is how they write. Their English is usually very bad and although they write in English, the sentences are broken and just don’t seem to make much sense.

Many people assume that it’s because the individual does not have a good education, so be sure to look out for that and be wary of anyone who cannot complete a full sentence that is grammatically incorrect.

You will receive a mass email from them. You know them, the kind of message that doesn’t make you feel very special at all.

It’s obvious that it’s intended for anyone and was not at all meant specifically for you. For example “Hi, loved your profile and you seem like such a nice person, would love to get to know you”. It can be meant for anyone and obviously, they did not take the time to read your profile either.

If you do respond to this type of message, the original message will also include an email Yahoo or Hotmail address, which they would prefer you to use to correspond with them.

Scammers are always trying to lead you away from the dating site you are on. They also always try to get you to give them your personal email address, cell phone number, instant messenger ID, and basically anything that they can get their hands on to one day soon use against you.

Eventually, the will give you their long sob story of how hard and difficult their life is and how they would so much appreciate any help you can give them. They do this of course after a period of time and gradually after they have built up sufficient trust with you.

Unfortunately, many people are lured into these false stories and actually send money to them. Be warned and keep it simple. If anyone ever asks you for money on an internet dating site, then it’s simply time to say goodbye.

If this does happen to you or you are suspicious of anyone, report it to the internet dating service you are on immediately. There is only one way to get rid of scammers, and that’s one scammer at a time. Be smart and stay safe.

This article was written by a Shawn Wilson, a member of the customer support team at Datepad, where internet dating is always free. http://www.datepad.com, a free internet dating site.

Comments No Comments »

To give yourself the best start to your adult dating, you should make your profile honest, but also make it catchy. If you’re looking to attract other adult online daters, you need to give them something that will catch their attention, and have them completely stimulated, and yearning to find out more about you.

Your profile is what other singles see first when searching for another single to find attraction with, and to see if they indeed want to send you an email. Remember, you want to keep your profile true yet exciting. A paragraph that shows them your personality will add some quality to your profile.

You will find that adult internet dating web sites have a lot of potential dates, and they all have different qualities. The more information you can supply about your best qualities and general turn ons is necessary for attracting other online daters. The first impression you show them is vital to receiving any messages.

Don’t start your profile’s contents with, “Take me, I’m yours”. Give them something to read about you as a person. It might be something about your turn ons, or an activity you enjoy doing. Just make sure that whatever it is that you say, you say something positive.

Make your profile easy to search for by including as many details as possible. Ethnicity can be added, and this will put you in many more search results of adult singles wanting other singles of a certain ethnicity.

Your profile should include a picture that says something about you. It should be curious, and something that will catch the other single’s eye. A picture of you standing there is not going to grab any curiosity. You need a picture that shows who you are, such as a picture of you enjoying yourself. You need your prospective love interests to look at the picture of you, and know who you are without words.

When you start to construct your profile, deliberate over the qualities you would like to know about another single. You might even view some other single’s profiles to get some ideas that may work for you.

A profile that grabs the attention of a lot of online daters will allow you to pick and choose. Keep it in mind that although they like your profile, you may take a dislike to their profile. Their first email will tell you a bit about them, but the profile should go into more detail.

Another single who sends you a message announcing how gorgeous and sexy you look might intrigue you, but did they take the time to read your profile. Mentioning things in your profile will be the first clue that they have got an idea about what type of person you are and the qualities you are searching for in a relationship.

Use this adult article as your guidance only. What works for one single won’t be for another. You have to be comfortable with the things you’re doing, and you must enjoy yourself. You won’t have any fun if you feel like what you’re trying to do has been written for you in a manual.

Find out where other singles meet for adult online dating by visiting http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com/adult-dating-online.html

Comments No Comments »

So you have been on various internet dating sites and after some searching you have met someone, hooked up and things are going great.

Good for you and good luck with your new relationship! The question now remains as to what to do with all the profiles and accounts you have created throughout your searching on various internet dating sites.

You have not logged in to them because you are busy with your new love - fair enough. But don’t be too hasty about removing your profiles and canceling your accounts just yet.

Although you may be happy for the moment, the reality is this new relationship has not had a chance to stand the test of time, and you never know when you will be looking for someone else again. Could be sooner than you think although I hope it’s not!

Many people decide as soon as they have met someone and have gone on a few dates, that they have found the “one” for them and hastily remove their profiles and delete their accounts.

The fact is, when we are in a new relationship everything is great and doesn’t seem that anything can ever go wrong. But sometimes it does. We always want to believe that nothing can ever go wrong so we don’t think about anything else.

Now try to remember how much time you spent building up your profiles! Many of you spent a significant amount of time tweaking and revising your profiles, to ensure that you come off just right.

To help with this scenario, many internet dating services recommend that you do not delete your profile and some sites give you the option of keeping your account open but deactivating your profile so others do not see you.

This way, you will not be contacted by other would be suitors but still have your account information intact. This is the wisest choice as building up profiles and accounts is time consuming and IF you had to start again, all your information is ready to go when you are.

Statistics show that only 15% of people who have met through internet dating and are in a long-term relationship. Don’t let that get you down though because over 60% of people actually find someone on internet dating sites.

So the numbers are there, but it becomes a question of how long the relationship will last. If it doesn’t then you will inevitably begin searching again on the internet. It is the most popular way of meeting someone, primarily due to its convenience.

You don’t necessarily have to get all dressed up and spend money to meet someone. You can do it in the comfort of your own home, that’s what makes internet dating so popular.

New couples are not necessarily honest with each other about everything - just yet. Many men and women admit to leaving their profiles active “just in case” and not telling their new partner about it for fear that they get the wrong idea; that they are not serious about the relationship and don’t want them to feel insecure about it.

I think letting your partner know that you still have your internet dating accounts open but not “active” will make them feel better and at the very least you could do the same.

The most trying time in a relationship is after the first 6 months. The first 6 months is basically the “honeymoon stage” of the relationship and everything is easy. But after that, the true grit of the relationship is tested and most relationships do not make it after the first year.

If you are in a relationship well over the 1-year mark, say 1.5 to 2 years, then you can feel secure that you are on the right track and can think about retiring your profiles for good.

This article was written by a Shawn Wilson, a member of the customer support team at Datepad, where internet dating is always free. http://www.datepad.com, a free internet dating site.

Comments No Comments »

Among all the jobs that we require to achieve in our daily routine lives, looking for a person with whom we can share our lives with has only become a negligent item and is last in the list. It is only because of the many time-consuming activities and workload that we are burdened with each day, we often tend to compromise by prioritizing our life in office, instead of enhancing our social lives.

Some online dating sites give you the chance to have the best of both the worlds. With such sites, it is very much possible to have an energetic social life as well as a successful career without having to jeopardize either of the two. Such online dating sites help finding a partner without having to move away from doing other competing tasks. All you need to do is log in and create a profile for yourself. With this you are able to view hundreds of profiles of other eligible bachelors. These online dating sites also allow you to interrelate with these singles along with full anonymity, unless you fee like sharing more information on yourself.

Internet Dating Sites

Online dating is a relatively new concept that has taken off in a big way all across the globe. Thousands of individuals from around the world are on the lookout for a perfect match and the Internet assists as the ideal medium to commence their search. Internet dating sites are a superior means for singles of all types, to find a partner of their choice. Once individuals create their profiles, they are allowed to have access to thousands of other profiles and thus users try to match up with their age, location interests and tastes.

Analysis:

It is not an easy task to find out Mr. Right or Miss. Right. This could pose a big challenge. But registering at an online site eliminates all such challenges, because all you require to do is fill up your profile online on the site and answer the simple questionnaire asked on the website. The questions asked herein are very simple and straightforward, and answering them would not take more than a few minutes. When you are done, the site describes your personality in a nearly perfect manner. You will be known as a risk taker or an individual who plays safe. It would determine if you are a pessimistic or optimistic person. The strength of your regards to your core values will also be outlined. Since such websites understands your personality by posing the right kind of questions, you can be rest assured that it will present you with an individual who can take you off your feet.

Eliminating unwanted attention

Most web profiles in Internet dating sites are also viewable by other registered users. Hence the chances of getting unwanted emails from flattering singles are on the high. So long as you do not leak out your personal information online, you need not worry about having unwanted attention because your privacy is protected. Alternatively, you could also stop the registered user from sending any more of such emails simply by blocking them.

Conclusion

With the popularity of Online dating sites growing, finding a perfect match no longer needs to be time-consuming or awkward. Just by logging yourself in and creating a profile for yourself, you are able to find your perfect date. It is, by and large a welcome transformation to blind dates that could otherwise prove to be a disaster.

SEO - http://www.seotops.com

Comments No Comments »