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By Design your own wedding ring, you can add that little extra to the otherwise ordinary and make it look extraordinary. Wedding, for a couple, is always a special moment since they decide to spend their lives together till eternity. They would want this feeling to get mirrored in everything attached to it and what could be more representative of the wedding than a wedding rings. This is the only visible mark of your vows and you would want to make it as special as the moment itself.

Never A Perfect Match

Its rare that you go with a blank mind while shopping for a marriage ring. There is always a hazy picture of the kind of ring you would wish to see on your fingers. When you visit the stores and do not find anything close to what you have on mind, you feel extremely disappointed.

It may also happen that no single style appeals to you in its totality. You may like the band of one, the metal tone of another, and the stone inlay of yet another. Now you can not buy all the three to get the right effect!

And if there is something you find likeable, the price might be a deterrent.

Create Your Own Style

A custom design is another option worth considering. Not only does it give your ring a personalized touch that sets it aside from the rest, it makes the entire experience in itself exciting and memorable. You will cherish the moment of creating something together as against picking up some stock designer band. Saving on your wedding budget comes as an extra bonus. And it is extremely simple.

When you design your own band, you have the freedom to decide every aspect of the ring. The first thing to look at is the metal. You can choose from yellow gold, white gold, sterling silver, platinum and titanium. If no single metal appeals to you, go for some permutation and combination. You can even decide the purity level in the case of gold. Anything between 14 and 18 karat is ideal for a marriage band.

Next, pick the gem that you wish to get inlaid in the setting. Chances are that you may want to opt for diamond for its special charm. Select the diamond by its caret value and cut shapes. You may take a while just studying all the attributes of the various diamond shapes and sizes before you decide. Last is the design in which you wish to have them set. All this could be personalized as per your tastes.

Seek Help, If Needed

If you do not have confidence over your creative instincts, you may consult a jewelry designer. They are good at giving shape to your ideas. Check the qualifications before contacting for work and if possible see their past creations. You can work closely with the designer and oversee the various stages involved in the ring making process. It can be fascinating to watch the rings come to life. These unique wedding rings are worth every effort.

You also have the option of designing the wedding bands at an online jewelry store. Some of these are also a good place to buy cheap wedding rings. Check them out!

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Tune into your intuition that this is NOT gonna work ladies, and don’t waste your time. Sometimes a man’s behavior provides a peek into the future, and it ain’t pretty. In that instant, all the dots are connected and a picture of what life could be emerges. You may just have to accept that no matter how great a guy you thought he was at first, this would-be relationship has come to its end.

Lack of Couth Gets A Date The Boot

“I was talking to an old boyfriend and he asked like he always does: “whatever happened to us?” said Rhonda, a 33 year old divorced single mother pensively. “I reflected way back when, to an incident in a shrimp and salad bar restaurant with him crunching on the shrimp without peeling the shell off first. He then swallowed it whole. I remember him complaining about how tough the shrimp were.”

“In that one instant, I just KNEW that I would never, ever be with him for the long term. He really didn’t know any better, and I didn’t have the heart to tell him. He was crunching away on the shell covered shrimp, squiggly legs and all… looking all lovingly into my eyes. The spell was broken. Might sound a little superficial on the surface, but this one slip-up was indicative of the basic problems we had in our relationship. I knew that I had out grown him. And it was time to go.”

Nicole is happily married now, but laughs heartily about several past dates. “One guy I dated for a short time would blow his nose at the dinner table on his napkin. Another would use coffee filters as tissues. A companionable card game turned to “eewwww!” real quick!”

Strange, Bizarre, Unusual, Crazy But True!

Alana, a 35 year old computer network technician chimed in with her story. “There was once this super fine guy that I dated… I mean this man was absolutely gorgeous! He resembled Rick Fox, okay!? But he had one habit that was absolutely repulsive. I don’t know what the condition was called, but he had what I guess was a saliva problem. When he talked some kind of thick white film formed around the edges of his mouth. It was just disgusting! I knew that I could fall in love with him and I did. We were even engaged for a (very) short period of time. But love is not always enough. It got so I dreaded kissing him, and after awhile when I looked at him my stomach turned. Needless to say I got rid of him.”

Marie believes in giving a guy a few chances, but even she had to get on the “been there, done that” wagon. “I dated a guy three times that felt that he knew me so well he had no reason to enter into meaningful conversation with me! When I would express my opinion, he would tell me that he knew that was not what I was really thinking. I think he had me confused with his ex-wife. He got the same result though, we both dumped his controlling butt!”

Taking Physical Liberties

Shoshanna, an 18 year old student at a Northern California university wishes guys would be more sensitive to a woman’s comfort zone and not rush into being physical. “I went out with this guy once and during the first date, he started holding my hand. I know for some people it may not be a big deal, but for me I just think it’s too soon to be holding my hand and I barely know you! I mean everywhere we went that evening he grabbed my hand. Needless to say after that, I made sure we didn’t go on another date!”

Oversharing and TMI

“I was set up on a blind date by friends,” wrote Rachael, a 28 year old legal secretary in Boston. “He called and asked where I wanted to go for dinner, so I suggested my favorite Italian seafood restaurant. He was tall, dark and handsome and I was looking forward to getting to know more about him as a person. Well, that curiosity didn’t last long!”

“After we ordered he began to talk incessantly about his ex. Apparently they’d broken up not too long before our date, and he was obviously still fixated on her. He told me about the abortion she had, his pre-diabetic condition, how she cheated on him, what he did to retaliate, and what a b@@@h she was. I ate my food, then asked if he was going to eat his (since he was busy talking). When he said “no”, I ate most of his too. We never went out again but I still enjoyed the great dinner I had that night!”

Cell Phones Dial Up Big Problems

Sherisse is a youthful looking 45 year old mother of two college aged children. Because of her strict exercise routine and great genes, she attracts and dates men 10-15 years her junior. No problem with age per se, but what bothers her about many of her dates is their ignorance of how to treat a lady when on a date.

“It’s ridiculous to go on a date with a man who claims to want to get to know me, only to have him constantly answering his cell phone or texting like a teenager. Another actually got up and left me sitting alone for 10-15 minutes while he carried on a whispered conversation some yards away. The next guy that does that will return to an empty table. Outside of an emergency call from your babysitter or aged mother, it’s the epitome of rudeness to answer the phone for every single call while on a date! Why don’t men get that?”

There are, of course, many more issues that turn a date off, which will be covered in Volumes 2 and 3 of this series. After such an experience, most singles go home shaking their heads, asking “how did I get myself into such a mess?”

Accept that fact that you can’t know EVERYTHING you need to know when you first meet someone. Dating is, after all, a process of elimination. You date around until you find a good fit, someone that feels comfortable and cozy, like a puzzle piece you two fit together.

The shrimp shell eater (he ate the legs and tail too) was an epiphany for Rhonda.

“I knew that I couldn’t live a life without culture and some of the finer things. And I also knew that he was going no farther than where he was in life. It’s several years later and unfortunately, I was right. He lives within 5 blocks of where he was born, works at a dead-end job, and has never experienced much of anything. I needed more. The incident just tied everything together in a neat little package for me.”

Deborrah is a dating expert whose columns appear on http://www.askheartbeat.com. Also author of the dating guide “Sucka Free Love” and the host of an Internet radio talk show on http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/askheartbeat, which airs on Wednesday nights at 7:00 pm (PST)

Too many of us think that dating is suppose to stop when we get married. That dating is only to see if you are compatible for marriage. This line of thinking is severally false, its perhaps more important to date after marriage then before. Dating builds a relationship, strengthens it and keeps it alive with new fun memories. So what can you do for a date that will help build that bond?

Try this assign a Friday to one spouse and plan a surprise activity for the other. Plan something that you know the other partner will enjoy. Make it special and keep it a secret until the night of. This shows that you are excited for the activity, that you’ve put thought into it and that you know what they like. Also you are more likely to enjoy the activity even if you wouldn’t choose that yourself because you planned it for the other person.

Try going back to the basics. Do something simple like going to a duck pond and feeding the ducks, or just going on a long walk. Anything where you just have to time to talk, there isn’t any pressure and it doesn’t cost a lot of money so you don’t feel like you have a lot invested in the evening making it stressful.

Try something new together. Go to a restaurant you have never been to, or try an activity that neither have you have ever attempted. Things like this that put you both on equal playing grounds can be very relaxing because you don’t feel like one or the other is just tagging along. You are learning together and helping each other learn.

Another good idea is to start a tradition together. Perhaps every Sunday night you watch a TV program together or once a month you go your favorite spot outdoors. Something that is uniquely special to both of you. Make it something you can look forward to, and something that you can remember fondly. Things like this can act as a good remind of good things are and can be if you are struggling.

Try once a month making goals together. Take an evening go get ice cream and plan what you want to work on that month as a couple. The goals could be anything from communicating better with each other, to being more consistent with date nights to learning to be scuba certified together. Make only a couple goals a month or you will get discouraged and give up all of them. Also plan specific ways you are going to achieve them. Goals bring you together in a united effort to work to be better.

Dating is important after the wedding because it can keep the marriage alive building and strengthening your relationship. Make the extra effort to make date night a weekly thing, even if you have to cut out some other activities to do it. The top way to answer the cry ’save my marriage’ is to make your marriage a priority.

Bart Icles knows that dating is important both before marriage and after. If you want to stop crying ’save my marriage’ then start making the first and foremost priority in your life. You can have a happy, successful marriage.

http://www.savemymarriagecenter.com

Building a strong marriage takes work, dedication and set rules. Your marriage should be something that you honor and cherish and never let anyone come and take that away from you. Although this list has simple tasks it is so important that you take them to heart and practice them.

Never…

1- Yell- Most of us are slow to say thank you, forget to encourage and quick to explain what people are doing wrong. Your marriage won’t be perfect, your partner won’t be perfect but that doesn’t mean you need to stop working. Raising your voice in a heated moment doesn’t encourage anyone to change it simply flips on the other persons defense mechanisms.

2- Lie- As soon as you start destroying the trust your spouse and you have built is the moment your marriage needs saving. If you can’t trust each other then problems will multiple faster than you can count them.

3- Being Easily Offended- We have to believe that our spouse has our best interest at heart, that things they say are meant to build us up, encourage us and help us be a better person. If we don’t look at the things they say in that light then we will become offended and refuse to change. Trust your spouse and change.

4- Marry your work- There is such thing as too much time at the office. You have a spouse who is a person that needs to know you care, everyone wants to be cared for not just supported. Be sure that your priorities are within your marriage to your spouse and not your work.

5- Shift Blame- Accusing each other won’t open the doors to effective communication. As a matter of fact it is instinct to defend your actions when you are accused, no matter how wrong, rather than change and admit the wrong. Use gentle words to discuss not accuse.

6- Stop Saying I Love You- You may think your spouse knows it but that doesn’t mean they know you do. When you hear someone say I love you it confirms that they know they love you too. Sometimes in the hustle of the world it is easy to forget how much those three little words can mean.

7- Stop Listening- Multi-tasking while you are listening to your spouse is never a good idea. Watching TV, working on the computer, reading, or whatever it is turn off the distraction while your spouse communicates with you. When you tune them out with your ear so does your heart.

8- Think Your Spouse has ESP- It is a proven fact that we don’t know the thoughts of any other person. So don’t expect your spouse to know things you haven’t directly told them

9- Think Immorally- Actions and desires start as thoughts, if you allow yourself to think anything about fidelity then your chances of crossing the line increase 10 fold. Just don’t allow it.

10- Bring Up Past Wrongs- Allow your spouse to make mistakes, but even more so allow them to change. We ask them to change but then when they do we constantly throw their mistake back in their face. This gets frustrating really quick and discouraging to make any future change. Just leave them buried.

Marriages are important, take a lot of work, but can bring you more happiness than anything else if they are properly cultivated. Take the time to learn how to save your marriage.

Bart Icles know the importance of strong marriage and the support that brings to your life. Don’t be afraid to learn how to save your marriage before it needs saving. It is worth your time not to give up.

http://www.savemymarriagecenter.com

To know how to write a wedding speech, you need to first know how to write entertainingly. At least that was what a friend of mine told me when I went to him for help. Naturally this led to a very short but pithy conversation.

I could see his point, but it wasn’t a very valid one to me. To know how to write a speech, you don’t need to be able to write in an entertaining manner. You need to be able to write coherently. The entertaining part, at least in my mind, comes at the point when you have to deliver the speech. Even the best of comedic speeches can sound as dry as dust if delivered in funereal tones.

So that put an end to that train of thought. But then we were left with the small factor of my needing to churn out a great speech in less than a week, not to mention the fact that I had to see on how to write a speech that would be convincingly good and not put my audience to sleep!

This point unnaturally enough, was the starting point for my wedding speech. I wrote in big bold letters on my notepad, that I did not want to put my audience to sleep. Then I went on to list the many things that I did, and did not, want out of my speech, and what I ended up with was a nice mish-mash of things that would have had my high school English teacher in despair.

But it got the job done. It got my writing juices flowing and gave me the impetus to first of all get something down on paper. And that I felt was the first point everyone should know about, on how to write a speech. Don’t think overly hard, don’t worry about what you have to write, just get something down on paper and before you realize it you will have what will be known henceforth as the first draft of your speech.

Once this is done, I strongly suggest leaving the speech aside and doing something more interesting such as having a cold one at the nearest watering hole. That was the second item on my list of how to write a speech. This I found is a very good way to clear your mind of all the cobwebs that have been building up since you first learned you had a speech to write. OK, now maybe having a cold one won’t clear your mind, but it will sure help you relax. The point here is to step away for a period of time and give yourself the opportunity to think about something else other than the wedding speech you have to deliver.

After that, when you are in a suitably clear frame of mind, most likely the next morning, (or afternoon!), you can then go back to your first draft, read it through, take the relevant bits and pieces of the speech which sound at least halfway decent to your ears, and work on a second, third or even fourth draft, until everything sounds just right. And that is how to write a wedding speech, on the fly.

So, a few of the most important elements for you to consider when writing a wedding speech are:

* What are your expectations of the speech (another words what do you want from your speech)

* Don’t forget to breathe (this may sound funny, however, our breathing patterns change when we are nervous or feel anxious)

* What kind of people are you going to be delivering the speech to (know a little about your audience)

* What is your time frame ( how long might you have to deliver your wedding speech)

* When will you be delivering the speech (before or after the dinner)

* And most importantly — HAVE FUN! Believe me it will show and come out in your speech

Not many people enjoy getting up in front of people and talking. However, some of us are placed in this position when our sister, brother or best friend are getting married. The very best thing we can do for ourselves is be prepared. This will afford us the opportunity to deliver a well thought out and planned wedding speech. It will also leave our friends and families very happy.

Bowe is the author of the e-book: “The Secret To Amazing Wedding Speeches”. Learn the elements of a perfect wedding speech by visiting: http://www.weddingspeechesrevealed.com and be prepared to deliver a flawless speech.