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Are you letting people influence your life in a way that’s negative? Do you isolate yourself out of fear of getting hurt? Are you clear about acceptable and unacceptable behavior in others? Are you happy with your boundaries?

Review the following list of unhealthy boundaries. Check off any which sound familiar or strike a chord. If you relate to some of them, you know you have some work to do on setting healthier boundaries.

Unhealthy Boundaries:

1. You have no boundaries.
2. You allow others to intrude your boundaries.
3. You allow others to touch, act and speak inappropriately toward you.
4. You allow others to take advantage of your time, your space, your body and/or your energy.
5. You give away too much of yourself.
6. You allow others to define who you are and direct your life.
7. You violate your personal integrity to please others.
8. You tell too much about yourself too quickly.
9. You allow sexual contact when you don’t want it.
10.You fall in love too quickly with almost anyone who shows you any attention.
11.You expect others to anticipate what you want and need.
12.You expect others to define your needs and values.
13.You expect others to fill your wants and needs.
14.You violate your integrity by allowing others to abuse you.
15.You abuse yourself through negative behaviors, e.g., overeating, over-drinking, drug use, unsafe sex or others.

You can strengthen your boundaries and it all starts with choosing to be the chooser.

Chooser versus Choosee: The Power of Choice

Chooser and choosee: Run them through your word-processing program, and you’re likely to have them rejected by your spell-check. Why? Because chooser, although in Webster’s Dictionary, is a seldom used term; and choosee is not even a word in our language. Regardless of the linguistic validity and frequency of these words, the dynamics and pay-offs of your being either the chooser or the choosee are huge.

When you’re the chooser, you live a powerful life of choice. You know who you are, what’s important, what’s allowed or not, and what’s healthy. When you live by choice, you never settle.

On the other hand the choosee gives their power away and allows others to make their choices for them.

The choosee is different from being chosen. In being chosen by another you still have clarity about what is and is not acceptable. The choosee settles and is often in a very dependent relationship.

Using three empowering dynamics of choice will give you the power to create and live the life of your choice.

The first dynamic is boundaries. When you know what’s acceptable and what’s not, you have clear boundaries. When you have clear boundaries, choice-making is easy because you know what does and doesn’t work for you.

The next dynamic is values. Knowing what’s important to you is synonymous with knowing your values. When you live and choose in accordance with your values, you live in integrity and wholeness.

The third and final dynamic is balance. When you live with a commitment to a balanced lifestyle, you have an awareness which helps you make healthy choices. Many health issues (both physical and emotional) are caused by a lack of balance. By choosing to have life balance awareness, you live a powerful and healthy life.

Boundaries, values, and balance are the essential cornerstones of your empowering, choice-making life.

Choose to be the Chooser! Remember: Setting boundaries is the first step; keeping and maintaining them is the real challenge.

Ken Donaldson, author of Marry YourSelf First!, has offered counseling, coaching, & educational programs since 1987. His programs empower people to have successful lives, businesses & relationships. Claim your FREE Relationship Success Special Report at http://www.marryufirst.com.

Getting married is a big event in our lives. It is only natural then that we want to make this day as special as we possibly can. Wedding planning can take weeks and months to complete as you try to get every detail as perfect as possible. Once the date has been set it is time to let all your family and friends know about the magnanimous occasion. This is when one starts to think about wedding invitations. Wedding cards are probably the first thing which is used to let people know that you are going to be getting married soon.

You are going to have a vast selection and there is no doubt that more than one of the many wedding cards will be right for the very special occasion. It can be very time consuming and tiring to select the one which is going to be just right for you. One thing that can help you to decide is to think about the theme of the wedding. You can easily choose wedding cards that correspond with the right theme. Your wedding cards are the vehicle that sets the tone for your prospective guests, and are the means that can enhance your weddings attendance if created in the optimal manner.

Wedding cards are made of vibrant and bright colored textured papers and are usually printed or engraved upon paper of excellent quality and the envelope must fit the enclosed invitation closely. There is a vast selection to choose from, you can have simple machine made cards, handmade card to even e-cards. Hand made cards are beautifully crafted cards for those who appreciate the uniqueness of such cards, and the skill involved in making such things by hand.

Budget is something that has also to be taken into account, when you are choosing your wedding card. Savings made here can be spent on other things to make your wedding a grand occasion. You can have grand designs or go for styles that are without too many bells and whistles but will still do the job just as well. If money is not a problem then you can go for very unique handcrafted cards, which will simply add to the grandeur of the special occasion.

One thing that you need to remember when choosing your wedding card is that it is aesthetically printed and looks pleasing to the eye. Your wedding card does not only serve as an invitation but can also be kept to cherish the memories of the special day. Getting married is once in a lifetime experience and you need to decide on a wedding card that will convey this message to all your guests.

It can take a lot of time and effort to decide the wedding card that is right for you but while choosing your card, remember that this is what is going to set the tone for the whole occasion and many people are going to be looking at this wedding card and it should be something that brings a smile to their faces, whenever they look at it.

Nim Aulakh is a writer and webmaster.For more tips and ideas on choosing your wedding cards and the best wedding congratulations cards, please visit our website http://weddingandhoneymoonplaces.com

While a wedding photographer and asking someone to marry you aren’t generally two things that go together, the popularity of photography is changing all this. Capturing the unique and precious moments of the engagement involves some behind-the-scenes work and a clever plan, but the results are well worth it. By going ‘undercover’ like James Bond armed with the newest technologies, the photo expert can capture this personal moment without imposing or ruining the surprise.

How Engagement Images Works

The wedding photographer is involved right after you decide to pop the question. Together, the location and details are decided. While this decision is pretty wide open, it needs to be somewhere that it is possible to take pictures from a distance. It may require cooperation from others as well, such as a business owner, restaurant staff, and even cab or limo drivers. Once the plan is in place, you worry about asking that all-important question and the photo expert with work with others to record the story perfectly without getting in the way or making your spouse-to-be any wiser. Some people are even having the area tapped in order to capture the entire moment and recreate it with the pictures later on.

What You Need To Know

Things happen, and even though the wedding photographer does his or her best to stay hidden, it isn’t always going to happen. If the other person is disturbed by this idea, it may not be the best choice. Of course, you can always confess and continue as planned. It may not be the same, but the engagement will not be a total loss.

This can also place additional stress on you. Some people don’t deal well with having others watch them, particularly during moments like these that are already stressful. You might also have to change existing plans for the sake of getting high quality photography. Sometimes, this means holding the event earlier in the evening or later in the morning. It may also require you to change the venue or stand in a particular direction so the professional can get a good shot. For example, asking her in her bedroom would be difficult to impossible to capture.

Why Engagement Images?

This special moment is often lost and only retold by the two people who were there. With the expertise of a wedding photographer, this story can be perfectly preserved and shared for years to come. You can share your pictures in a beautiful album or scrapbook. Your chosen photo expert can put your photos online on personal web pages so they can be shared easily with anyone, wherever they live. It may also be possible to show the pictures at a celebration held after the proposal is accepted.

One thing many new couples like is that engagement pictures are the perfect way to preview the quality of an expert photographer. The couple gets to see his or her work and gets a firsthand look at what it is like to work with that particular person. They have their photojournalistic expert for the big day and are less nervous because they know what to expect so the couple can enjoy their day.

Whether you live on the west coast or in downtown Chicago, wedding photographers can capture all of the important moments in your life, not just that one big day. This allows you to share these once-in-a-lifetime moments with others and even with your children or at an anniversary many years from now.

Christine O’Kelly is an author for award-winning Essence (http://www.essencepv.com/), a top wedding photographer in Chicago. Essence is not only a Chicago wedding photographer, but also a videographer and expert photojournalist (http://www.essencepv.com/).

Well, you are in luck because there are some really cool websites out there that are a mixture of dating sites like Match or True and social networking sites like Myspace and Xanga, these sites are referred to as Social Dating Networks. So what exactly can you do on these sites? How much does it cost? Fortunately for you the price tag on these sites is zero! Yep, you can join today, completely free of charge, unlike those other websites!

You can do some really cool activities on these sites, but first and foremost I would like to mention the fact that you can “secretly” let someone know you like them. No, these aren’t kid’s games, there are actually a lot of 20 year old people and even older people that have a hard time expressing a crush they may have on someone!

These websites allow you to get over that fear of telling someone you fancy them very quickly. I saw one today that actually lets you make a little “mini me” character (a miniCool), and then when you find someone on the website that is of interest to you, you can send that person your character either through the site, by email or send them an SMS message with little clues to who you are and all that good stuff.

The fun thing is that you can send tantalizing clues just your hair color, your eyes, clues about your interests anything you like, you can just gradually build it up! If the person doesn’t guess it’s you, you can send them more details by adding to your clue character. It’s a brilliant for flirting! I have a miniCool I just built on this one website and it looks exactly like me!

There’s tons of cool options and it’s such fun making up these characters. I know I have visited some other sites that allowed you take make “mini me”s and the options were just horrible! These MiniCools and these websites for that matter are a way of getting the girl or guy of your dreams without putting yourself out there completely. We all know that a broken heart is one of the suckiest things on earth.

But with these websites you can safely flirt and let that person know you like them, and if they like you back, awesome! And if not? No big deal. It sort of lessens that feeling of anguish you get when someone doesn’t like you back the same way you like them, ya know?

Sites like these have all sorts of other things to keep you interested such as forums, chat rooms, advice sections, music downloads, ring tone downloads, games and much more! These are definitely sites you are going to want to look at. They are definitely worth your while! Oh and by the way, in case you were wondering about the profile options, they let you customise things like images, quizzes, jokes, favorites, blogs, videos, and even the profile color and design! Needless to say these sites are pretty darn cool! Have fun and remember to be safe!

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Sex lubricants have become common household goodies in the past couple of decades. While the topic of sex lubricants had in the past been kept taboo, recently, people are opening up to the outward ideas of sex and using lubricants to make good sex great. Sex lubricants range in price, and there also is a lot of different ingredients in them and types of lube, and not all sex lubricants are good for all sexual activities. There are some basic things that everyone should keep in mind when it comes to sex lubricants, and if you remember these things while you are shopping, they will save you a lot of money (and stress or frustration) in the end.

First of all, when you pick up the first bottle of the sex lubricants, if you are unfamiliar with that kind, turn the bottle over and look first at the list of ingredients. You should know each ingredient in sex lubes and how they react with your body or not. Some people are allergic to or are sensitive to some ingredients in sex lubes, so usually for these people, natural, organic sex lubricants are a good choice.

There are a lot of water based sex lubricants that contain sugar and glycerin. These ingredients can promote the growth of yeast in the vagina or the rectum, which can lead to yeast infections. Most of the water based sex lubricants that contain glycerin are the flavored ones, so be very careful of those. Try to find lubes that are sugar free, paraben free, and glycerin free.

There are sex lubricants out on the market today that are oil based sex lubricants. The only thing you need to remember about oil based sex lubes are that unless you are a male looking for lube to masturbate with, move on! You need to avoid the oil based lubricants because they will break down toys, condoms, and birth control devices almost on contact. Also, the oil coats the vagina and the rectum, which can commonly lead to infections. Anything from latex gloves to rubber and latex condoms are not to be used with oil based sex lubricants. This includes petroleum jelly and baby oil, or mineral oil.

Silicone sex lubricants are quickly becoming the most popular lubes with people today. Silicone lubricants last longer than water ones before drying out, and a lot of people really like the texture and silky smoothness of silicone. It is interesting, by the way, that silicone feels so smooth; silicone by definition is billions of tiny glass beads that are smeared together. Do not use silicone sex lubricants with any of your toys if the toys are made of silicone. Since silicone is glass, when you rub glass on glass, it gets destroyed. The same thing happens with the toys. Some people dont like the fact that silicone sex lubricants are harder to wash off of the body after use, but all it takes is a little effort, soap, and water, and it will come off.

So keep a keen eye out for the ingredients listed on the bottles of sex lubricants, because with the right kind of sex lubricants not only could you save yourself time and trouble, but a whole lot of grief as well.

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